Indian Girls and The Society. February 28th, 2014
This post is taken from the Quora post
I am posting this without the permission of the author Rohan as quora does allow me to post this in their license agreement.
Since I liked his post very much so I'am posting this.
So here is something for the girls who are illusioned by their own niche.
Feeding an Indian girlfriend is like paying the bills of someone else's future wife!
The corollary to the above theorem is also true :
If you arrange marry an Indian girl, you are almost always marrying some other heartbroken guy's girlfriend.
Note to those who want to refute this claim : Some people have been making the 'baby argument' and resorting to calling the society misogynist and their victimizing tone and half-assed feminism hurts the real women out there who have triumphed all odds and who actually deserve to be revered. So please read the comment linked below if you want to venture into the 'economics of dating' and 'feminism' angle of it.
'Ask for a date, get a marriage for free' Attitude
A lot of girls justify this errant behavior with the excuse that marriageability remains an important factor for the girl (again, please sing along with me, the anthem of feminism, la...la....misogyny, patriarchy, Indian society..la..la); Which in itself is a childish assumption to start with, because it stems from the clingy notion that dating *should* lead to marriage. The oxy'moron' is strong in this one!
Ask a girl for a date, get free jail-time as a complimentary addition!
As is evident from the popularity that the top voted answer to this question, it is not an isolated incident of aggravation. Decent guys face such humiliation *every day* which is uncalled for (no brainer, eh?). Most don't have the courage, or resources or the support system to battle it out and it ends up scarring them for life, much like a rape would scar someone.
So all those musketeers who are 'oh so proud' about their sanskars, none of them enter wedlock as a pure soul. The sanskars are an excuse to guilt trap and manipulate their guys before the marriage and the 'modern thinking' crap is an excuse to guilt trap and manipulate their husbands after marriage.
The counter-argument never goes beyond blaming everyone but themselves.
It is not an uncommon sight to find them whining about how everything boils down to either misogyny, patriarchy, or blaming the ever elusive and metaphorical 'Indian society', while conveniently shrugging off their own responsibility.
If you hold the door open for the girl : Omg! you are such a misogynist! Do you think I am not strong enough to open doors for myself? Chauvinist creep!
If you don't hold the door open for the girl : Omg! you are such a product of patriarchy! Can't even hold the door open for the girl! Chivalry is dead!
You might as well :
- Neighbor's cat gave birth? blame misogyny, patriarchy, Indian society!
- Building collapses due to earth quake? misogyny, patriarchy, Indian society!
- N.Korea threatens nuclear strike? misogyny, patriarchy, Indian society!
- GDP goes down? well...you know the anthem.
And this disease is not unique to the female folks, there are quite a lot of overzealous, self-righteous male musketeers who fit into this anecdote. These are the same guys who will be at the forefront of any argument, or rather, anything that involves women, making their presence felt like a diligently trained puppy. These are the same guys who bash up other people on the street for no apparent reason, just to feel the misplaced thrill of being a hypersensitive pro-women 'intellectual' man while conveniently labeling others as 'desi male'. Some unlucky ones don't get a chance to beat up anyone in real life so they resort to online forums with their pseudo-intellectual talk.
The whole point of their feminism stems from the misplaced belief of somehow using other people as a scapegoat to isolate their pitiful self from collective responsibility to make their own cosmetic moral high ground seem higher.
The prejudiced propaganda that follows under the name of Schrödinger's Rapist makes me wonder if we should start dealing with women with our own cautionary hypothesis of Schrödinger's Misandrist?
This is how we guys feel while dealing with Indian girls!
Disclaimer : I understand that my answer is a hyperbolic take on the issue and goes best with a pinch of salt. There was a reason I had to compile it the way I did and I have written an explanation for the same in my comment here :
Trust Me, I'm not a hacker August 15th, 2013
Yes, Indeed I'm not a hacker and I have never been one.
With remniscence of the recent past that was unleashed by a social internet activist Edward Snowden.
The only crime that guy did was that he revealed the about the project PRISM and the suporting operations of
The NSA which actually hampers the privacy of the users. ..more
Top reasons not to wear a deo May 14th, 2013
After a very long time, I feel very glad to share the top 10 Reasons for not using a Deo.
10. You bath everyday
9. You don't like the smell of the deo.
8. You are poor and you cannot afford
7. You are rich but still you cannot afford.
6. You are lazy.
5. You have amnesia
4. You forget things easily.
3. You don't want to impress the people who you meet.
2. You suck at everything.
1. You don't have a girlfriend.
0. You seek revenge against ur sideys. [added entry from my sidey in office]
Actually this hypothesis proves that you are not a very social Guy, and if you find yourself satisfying any 3 conditions,
have a very good luck in getting a girl in your near future.
ARE YOU WITH THE RIGHT PARTNER? April 11th, 2013
During a seminar, a woman asked," How do I know if I am with the right person?"
The author then noticed that there was a large man sitting next to her so he said, "It depends. Is that your partner?" In all seriousness, she answered "How do you know?" Let me answer this question because the chances are good that it's weighing on your mind
replied the author.
Here's the answer.
Every relationship has a cycle… In the beginning; you
fall in love with your partner. You anticipate their calls,
want their touch, and like their idiosyncrasies. Falling in love wasn't hard. In fact, it was a completely natural and spontaneous experience. You didn't have to DO anything. That's why it's called "falling" in love.
People in love sometimes say, "I was swept of my feet."Picture the expression. It implies that you were just standing there; doing nothing, and then something happened TO YOU.
Falling in love is a passive and spontaneous experience. But after a few months or years of being together, the euphoria of love fades. It's a natural cycle of EVERY relationship.
Slowly but surely, phone calls become a bother (if they come at all), touch is not always welcome (when it happens), and your spouse's idiosyncrasies, instead of being cute, drive you nuts. The symptoms of this stage vary with every relationship; you will notice a dramatic difference between the initial stage when you were in love and a much duller or even angry subsequent stage.
At this point, you and/or your partner might start asking, "Am I with the right person?" And as you reflect on the euphoria of the love you once had, you
may begin to desire that experience with someone
else. This is when relationships breakdown.
The key to succeeding in a relationship is not finding the right person; it's learning to love the person you found.
People blame their partners for their unhappiness and look outside for fulfillment. Extramarital fulfillment comes in all shapes and sizes.
Infidelity is the most common. But sometimes people turn to work, a hobby, friendship, excessive TV, or abusive substances. But the answer to this dilemma does NOT lie outside your relationship. It lies within it.
I'm not saying that you couldn't fall in love with someone else. You could. And TEMPORARILY you'd feel better. But you'd be in the same situation a few years later.
Because (listen carefully to this):
The key to succeeding in a Relationship is not finding the right person; it's learning to love the Person you found.
SUSTAINING love is not a passive or spontaneous experience. You have to work on it day in and day out. It takes time, effort, and energy. And most importantly, it demands WISDOM. You have to know
WHAT TO DO to make it work. Make no mistake about it.
Love is NOT a mystery. There are specific things you can do (with or without your partner), Just as there are physical laws Of the universe (such as gravity), there are also laws for relationships. If you know how to apply these laws, the results are predictable.
Love is therefore a "decision". Not just a feeling.
Remember this always: God determines who walks into your life. It is up to you to decide who you let walk away, who you let stay, and who you refuse to let GO!